Most people know about interventions from the show Intervention on A and E. And while this show is an accurate depiction of how an intervention works and the harrowing effects of addiction it is important that you realize that each situation is unique including yours. Also when it comes to a show like Intervention on A and E it is important to remember much of it is edited to only show what the viewer would be interested in. There are a lot of little things that go into an actual intervention, which we are sure, was done for the interventions on A and E but just weren’t shown.
Interventions are not usually a rushed process unless they are crisis interventions. Crisis interventions are when an addict or alcoholic is absolutely in desperate need of help right this instant. Normally interventions are full of planning with a certified interventionist.
Here are the steps you might not have seen on the show Intervention A and E:
1. Planning. A family member or friend proposes an intervention and forms a planning group. It’s best if you consult with an intervention professional (interventionist), a qualified professional counselor or a social worker when planning an intervention. An intervention is a highly charged situation and has the potential to cause anger, resentment or a sense of betrayal. If you have any concerns that the intervention may trigger anger or violent behavior, consult an intervention professional before taking any action.
2. Gathering information. The group members find out about the extent of the loved one’s problem and research the condition and treatment programs. The group may make arrangements to enroll the loved one in a specific treatment program.
3. Forming the intervention team. The planning group forms a team that will personally participate in the intervention. Team members set a date and location and work together to present a consistent, rehearsed message and a structured treatment plan. Do not let your loved one know what you are doing until the day of the intervention.
4. Deciding on specific consequences. If your loved one doesn’t accept treatment, each person on the team needs to decide what action he or she will take. Examples include asking your loved one to move out or taking away contact with children.
5. Writing down what to say. Each member of the intervention team should detail specific incidents where the addiction has resulted in problems, such as emotional or financial issues. Discuss the toll of your loved one’s behavior while still expressing care and the expectation that your loved one can change.
6. The intervention meeting. Without revealing the reason, the loved one is asked to the intervention site. Members of the core team then take turns expressing their concerns and feelings. The loved one is presented with a treatment option and asked to accept that option on the spot. Each team member will say what specific changes they will make if the addicted person doesn’t accept the plan.
7. Follow-up. Involving a spouse, family members or others is critical in helping someone with an addiction stay in treatment and avoid relapsing. This can include changing patterns of everyday living to make it easier to avoid destructive behavior, offering to participate in counseling with your loved one, seeking your own therapist and recovery support, and knowing what to do if relapse occurs.
So will your intervention on your loved one look like the one’s on the show Intervention on A and E? It is probably going to look close to that. But your situation is unique and your loved one’s reaction to the intervention will be unique too. Regardless it is important that you meet with a certified interventionist and discuss your options.