You are probably wondering what I am talking about. And you probably think I am being bold by stating that this one line almost always leads to relapse. But it is true. I hear this line all the time. Especially by addicts who have found themselves in drug detox time and time again and are in horrible situations. And I am here to poke holes through it and tell you exactly why this shit ends up in the addict relapsing. I have said it myself and instead of being able to progress, I slowly found myself digressing. Luckily I tossed this line once I realized that it was total crap.
Are you ready for it? Here it is:
That is because any and every addict that has said it. Often times this is said right after a relapse and this is a dangerous statement to make. It implies, consciously or subconsciously that the addict already knows what they need to do and if that were the case they wouldn’t even be where they are right now needing to say it. This statement blocks them off from hearing anything that could possibly help them. Why? Because they already know what they need to do, they just need to do it.
The other part of this statement that is highly dangerous is the need to do it half of it. The need to do it part implies that they haven’t done whatever it is that they think they need to do. And the truth staying sober has nothing to do with what you know and everything to do with what you do. It has everything to do with action and nothing at all to do with what you think. So the addict that knows is no better off than the addict that doesn’t know. In fact the addict that doesn’t know is probably better off because they aren’t closed off from taking any suggestions because they think they already know. I am calling every single one of you people that haven’t managed to stay sober and have uttered this line. It’s bullshit. It’s a bullshit line. You need to just forget everything you know and pretend you have no clue because that is really what it is. Take suggestions.
The truth of the matter is the person who says this won’t take any action because they already know in their head what to do. And they think that knowing is enough. Those of us who have relapsed and finally gotten sober, we do know though, that the knowing is useless and the action is everything. And it is never the action we think we should take but the action that is suggested to us by a sponsor or someone else who knows what is best that has gotten us to where we are today.
Getting sober has a lot to do with humbling yourself. And this statement is far from that. Realizing you know nothing and need help as well as having the willingness to take action are key. This whole idea that you already know what to do, you just need to do it will take you out quicker than I can type it. Although, I am not saying every person who says this doesn’t stay sober but the person who really believes this and doesn’t take action because of it or follow suggestions such as going to treatment after detox, or getting a sponsor, or working 12 steps, or whatever else, they essentially are screwed because of this belief and this one line.